Disclosure: this is a paid collaboration with Socked.
I’ve always considered myself to have pretty good manners and take a dim view of those who are rude to others when out and about. So, when a press release on the subject of etiquette arrived in my inbox this morning, it jolly well got my attention, I tell you.
A survey carried out by Socked concluded that women no longer expect displays of chivalry from men. Most women, it says, would prefer to pay for their dinner on a first date, and would not accept the offer from a man to carry their bags.
Other results suggested that very few would accept a seat on public transport if offered by a man, nor accept a coat on a cold day.
The survey results said:
- 82% of women said they would prefer to pay for their dinner on a first date
- 52% said they would happily pay for the entire bill on a first date
- 89% of women said they would not take up the offer from a man to carrying their bag
- 78% would not accept a coat from a man on a cold day* Only 34% of women said they expect men to open doors for them
- 8% said they would take up the offer of a seat if a man offered. In London, this figure was only 2%
For my part, I’ve always held doors open for everyone regardless of their gender, but will admit to being of the ‘ladies first’ school of thought. It’s the way I was brought up and most people seem to appreciate the sentiment, so am not sure whether this makes me polite or old fashioned.
What it does make me think, though, is that it’s a shame that, whatever chromosomes people possess, basic manners no longer seem to be the norm.
This view is shared by Mark Hall, Gentleman Creation Officer at Socked. He says: “Men’s standards have slipped so far over recent years that any offer of chivalry from a gentleman knocks a woman off their guard and is viewed with outright suspicion.
“Does an offer of goodwill have to be taken the wrong way? If men upped their game across the board, good manners would be back on the agenda once again. We’ve forgotten about good behaviour, and it’s high time gentlemen stood up to be counted – especially on a crowded bus.”
Sound logic, methinks! So, if us chaps, need to pull our socks up on the manners front, what better way than donning a new pair?
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Where do you stand on the great manners debate?